Why do we as pastors wives often act as if God expects us to live just like someone else? Why do we find ourselves comparing our spiritual life, our talents and abilities, our looks, our emotions and many other things to people who may have never walked in our shoes and who knows little about our personal stories?
God does not expect us to become someone else. Understand that the Lord stamped you with this label: “Lovingly and Uniquely Designed by God.” Understanding God’s claim over our lives as believers helps us overcome the fears and insecurities that make us hesitant to act like ourselves.
When we struggle with self-doubt, a good assignment is to study some heroes of the faith who experienced similar issues. Throughout Scripture God took very different women with very different problems, personalities and experiences and used them for His glory and their good.
Think of Rahab who overcame a life of prostitution to become an ancestor of Jesus Christ. Or Sarah released her determination to do things her own way and discovered that God’s way is best. Ruth struggled over devastating personal losses yet found love and acceptance as God’s plan for her unfolded. Mary faced judgment and humilation and endured life’s struggles to become the mother of Jesus.
The common denominator linking these women’s experiences to our own is that each believed God. They didn’t just believe in God, they trusted God’s ability to see them through life’s circumstances.
No mold exists for godly women. No mold exists for pastors’ wives. Understand that God expects you to do what He directs you to do – nothing more and nothing less.
Read: I Corinthinas 3:16, 2 Corinthians 3:3, Colossians 3:12
WOW! Did you catch that last one? You are ‘Christ’s letter’, not written with ink but written on the heart!
Complete this prayer:
“Father God, I know You are with me and that You have great plans for my life. I truly want to believe You for all the things I read about in Your Word. I ask You to help my unbelief about these truths……
Help my life reflect what I know to be true about You and about me!” Amen!
you asked the question…
Why do we as pastors wives often act as if God expects us to live just like someone else? Why do we find ourselves comparing our spiritual life, our talents and abilities, our looks, our emotions and many other things to people who may have never walked in our shoes and who knows little about our personal stories?
Maybe because that is the way everyone in the church looks at you. Looks at your children. Looks at your way of life. You may be comfortable in your own skin, knowing that God made you the way you are, but there are many in the church that are more than willing to tell you what you need to change. I am actually looking forward to the day when I am no longer a Pastors wife.
When I meet knew people, I do not tell them I am a P.W. I let them get to know me first.